For centuries, people have asked the big question: What really makes us happy? From Aristotle’s idea that living a good life brings joy, to philosophers who said happiness comes from love and faith, the search for lasting happiness has always been part of human life.
Today, many experts believe that happiness isn’t just about feeling good in the moment. It’s more about how we think and live every day. True happiness is waking up with purpose, feeling grateful, and knowing you’re living in a way that matches your values. It grows when you notice the little things that bring joy like a good conversation, a peaceful walk, or doing something meaningful at work.
But here's the truth: many people don’t believe they deserve to be happy. Some feel guilty for focusing on themselves, as if choosing joy takes something away from others. That’s simply not true.
Why Planning for Happiness Matters
Carl Barney, author of The Happiness Experiment, says happiness is too important to leave to chance. In his book, he explains that knowing what truly brings you joy like certain people, hobbies, or routines helps shape your identity and quality of life.
Too often, we wait for happiness to “show up” after we’ve hit life’s milestones: graduating, getting married, buying a house. But real happiness doesn’t come after success it comes from creating a life that feels good as you go.
That’s why Barney created a happiness plan, especially after a near-death experience changed his perspective. He even gave away “happiness grants” to people he loved, with one condition: they had to spend the money on themselves no saving it, no giving it away. Each person worked with a happiness coach to discover what truly made them happy, and in doing so, many found their entire outlook on life shifted.
You can do the same.
How to Create Your Own Happiness Plan
Building a happier life doesn’t mean quitting your job or moving across the world. It’s about making space each day for what lights you up. Here are five simple steps to get started:
1. Look Back at What Made You Smile
Do a quick “happiness check.” Think back over the past month. What moments made you feel most alive or joyful? What were you doing? Who were you with? Now flip it what moments left you drained or stressed? These patterns will give you clues about what to keep and what to shift.
2. Check Your Daily Routine
Are the things that bring you joy part of your everyday life? Or are they rare moments squeezed between busy tasks? You might be happier than you realize or you may need to make small changes, like adding more time for creativity, nature, or meaningful conversations.
3. Set Small, Joyful Goals
Happiness doesn’t require huge changes. Try setting aside just 20 minutes a day for something you love. It could be reading, gardening, walking, or even just sipping coffee in peace. Simple pleasures, when done with intention, have a big impact.
4. Reflect and Adjust Often
Treat your happiness like a personal experiment. Keep a journal or notes on what’s working and what’s not. If something no longer brings joy, it’s okay to change it. As your life shifts, so will your happiness habits.
5. Balance Joy With Responsibility
Chasing happiness doesn’t mean ignoring your responsibilities it means showing up with more energy, focus, and love. When you feel good, everything else flows better too.
You Deserve to Be Happy, Today and Tomorrow
Happiness isn’t selfish. It’s not a luxury. And you don’t have to earn it. When you’re truly happy, you inspire those around you and live a more purposeful, fulfilling life.
So, update your goals. Revisit your calendar. Plan for joy just like you plan for your career or finances. Whether it’s your one-year or five-year vision, make sure happiness is part of the plan.
Start today your happiness is worth it.